A psychologist's vision

Psychology and mindsets

In my previous article, I explained why I don’t really like writing love songs. Likewise, I do like writing songs about psychology and mindsets. Besides my own experiences with psychology and different visions on psychology and mindsets, I think it’s very interesting to see how psychology and mindsets can have a sometimes everlasting influence on people. In order to keep things organized, I’d like to focus on psychology in my songs firstly. I’ll explain everything about certain mindsets woven in my songs later on.

It’s a bit of a personal story to tell why I’m writing quite a lot of songs about psychology and the effects psychologists can have on personalities. I’ve been to quite some psychologists as well; my past was, simply put, not always easy. My experiences with some psychologists weren’t always positive, I didn’t feel like they were really listening to me. The feeling of not being understood really shaped me, and I used this feeling to write A psychologist’s kiss.

Being misunderstood really is harmful. It’s also a reason to do everything regarding Tommy Wink Productions myself; in order to have full control and not being dependent and perhaps be misunderstood by others. Because, if psychologists have taught me anything, it’d be that sorrow and pain have to be healed from inside. A psychologist can help, offer tools in order to heal the pain, but a psychologist can never take away the pain.

This is a nice bridge to mindsets. Because choosing to live with pain, is a mindset as well. Like I’ve explained before, it’s not a choice I’d make, but a choice nevertheless. But mindsets can also be found in other aspects of life. This way, I choose to just watch society. I don’t like running a rat race like a lot of people are doing. In my opinion, a lot of people are chasing after money, big houses, or a lot of luxurious stuff.

I’ve never been rich, poverty has always been an acquaintance of mine. But on the other side, it means I’ve never lost myself in expensive stuff, like clothes or jewellery. “Lose yourself in your belongings.”, like I wrote in the song Love for Nothing. That’s also a mindset. But having a lot of stuff, doesn’t necessarily mean one’s really happy. It only implies someone needs a lot of stuff to feel happy.

I, on my side, am happy with the stuff I’m having. It may not be a lot, but it’s enough for me alone. I don’t have a big house, I still don’t have a lot of money, and I certainly do not own big cars or other expensive stuff. But do I really need it? Would that make me happy, or would that only make me lose myself in my stuff? Of course I am having wishes, but having wishes of what I’d want, doesn’t imply I’m not happy.

Other mindsets, like I’ve explained in a song like On the Bridge or When we’ve taken our last breath, are also views on life. “Life is so curious. Everything’s so furious.”, as I’ve written in When we’ve taken our last breath. Likewise, this is a mindset as well. Once again, I’m only looking at society and thinking about why everyone can be so hyped up. It’d do a lot of people well to take a step back and to not bite more than they can chew on, I think.

But in the end, people can only choose for themselves. Why people make certain choices, like buying a lot of stuff, completely depends on and determines their mindset and what they believe in. As for me, I’d like to have a little more money, but I can still live with the amount of money I’m having today. And someday, I would like to buy a house and start a family. But for now, I am happy with everything.

Time can also be seen as a mindset. Going fast doesn’t mean it’s going well as well. In fact, my experience taught me that doing things fast oftentimes also means making mistakes, which is a shame. And in such a point of view, making haste isn’t always the right choice. It’s with this in mind that I feel like all good things come to those who are patient and those grateful for what they have. That also implies finding your own way, which is both a psychological way and a way to use mindsets to your advantage.